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“I am 36 years old, I did 12 years for ‘manslaughter’, I killed a woman, like you, who decided to make fun of guys cocks. Happy to say we live in the same state. I’m looking you up, and when I find you, I’m going to rape you and remove your head. You are going to die and I am the one who is going to kill you. I promise you this.” (Hess, Amanda. "Why Women Aren't Welcome on the Internet." www.psmag.com. Pacific Standard, 2015. Web. 6 May 2015.)
There is a human being behind every screen, however, women are hardly treated as one online. Many women online have faced sexual harassment at least once in their lives. Reasons as to why women are harassed online are vague, but to exert power over someone is a major motivation for many. A woman doesn't even have to be a blogger or journalist to receive harassment. Any woman online can receive threats, sexually explicit messages and sexist comments. Women are also attacked simply because of their gender. The sad reality is that whenever a woman seeks for help to report the online abuse, not much is being done to prevent future incidents.
In a section of the article “Why Women Aren't Welcome on the Internet,” Amanda talks about her experience of online harassment. She received tweets from a fake account threatening to kill her. She also had gotten emails from men trying to degrade her and found an online forum where men suggested what they would do to her and a feminist activist because they did not like her article. One man suggests: “Put em both in a gimp mask and tied to each other 69 so the bitches can’t talk or move and go round the world, any old port in a storm, any old hole.” (Hess, Amanda. "Why Women Aren't Welcome on the Internet." www.psmag.com. Pacific Standard, 2015. Web. 6 May 2015.) The same experience Amanda had is not far from what other women have faced.
I am pretty sure that many of us has had at least one experience of online harassment. It is not uncommon, but it goes unnoticed most of the time. Just like victims of rape, online harassment victims are being blamed or ignored. “. . .as part of a political movement that refuses to acknowledge men’s violence against women as an epidemic. Instead, they see men as the real victims–of feminism. Their self-appointed victim status gives them the right to call women names, threaten and intimidate at will.” (Atherton-Zeman, Ben. "How Some Men Harass Women Online and What Other Men Can Do to Stop It." Msmagazine.com. Ms Magazine Blog, 23 Jan. 2013. Web. 6 May 2015.) Men are excused for their abuse because they are seen as the victim. Another reason why online harassment doesn’t get much attention is because women are expected to “either get over ourselves or feel flattered in response to the threats made against us.” Online death threats and rape threats put a person’s security and life at risk. It is a huge predicament oblivious to many. Even police officers and social media aren’t treating the issue seriously. Criado-Perez, a female tweeter, retweeted the threats she received and contacted the police and Twitter for help. The police and Twitter shifted the burden on each other until one officer finally came out and said that the police “don’t want to be in this arena.” (Hess, Amanda. "Why Women Aren't Welcome on the Internet." www.psmag.com. Pacific Standard, 2015. Web. 6 May 2015.)
It gets worse. Accounts that appear to be feminine receive abuse as well. “In 2006, researchers from the University of Maryland set up a bunch of fake online accounts and then dispatched them into chat rooms. Accounts with feminine usernames incurred an average of 100 sexually explicit or threatening messages a day. Masculine names received 3.7.” (Hess, Amanda. "Why Women Aren't Welcome on the Internet." www.psmag.com. Pacific Standard, 2015. Web. 6 May 2015.)
Another predicament that goes along with online harassment are the dangers of online dating. Women, especially young women, may meet a guy online and may wind up dating. Although there are stories reported on how long distance relationships have worked out, not every story has a happy ending. Some women have found themselves in relationships with partners who have inexplicably changed and have become abusive. I, personally, knew someone who was dating online. She dated this guy for two years and even had the opportunity to meet him in person several times. Everything was perfectly fine, but late into the second year he started demanding nude photos. He became verbally abusive to her to the point that her self-esteem started to deteriorate. She mustered up the strength to scare him off by threatening to call the cops. It took her a couple of months to really get rid of him and get over the whole dilemma. She blocked him online and informed her parents so that they can be prepared to act whenever he became a threat again. That was two years ago. She is finishing her first year of college and is happy now.
When I read these articles, I became furious. These women try to make a living by writing on the internet and these men feel the need to send death and rape threats. It's repulsive. And some women online just want to be online but they have a chance of meeting someone who will verbally abuse them simply because they are women. Many women now try to hide their identity online to avoid any conflicts, but that says to me that women should hide in the shadows. Women should feel free enough to go anywhere whether that place is real or virtual and not have to feel like her safety is at risk. It also angers me how men say that women should get over it because it's just some "online ruse" when in fact the problem is more than that. It's a matter of security, equality and human decency. Many times these online predators do not get caught because the police don't give the issue much attention until it is too late. Women are just as human as men and do not deserve this type of treatment.
We live in a society where we can easily connect online. This privilege has been abused so many times and unfortunately little is being done about it. We need to be more aware of this issue and spread the knowledge. Please do not be like all the other people who are oblivious to this issue and help a fellow wo-man out. And please, think before you text or post anything. |
Wednesday, May 13, 2015
The Online Struggle
Saturday, May 9, 2015
Cornrows In Cooperate: Black Hair In The Work Force
Curls, kinks, twists, black hair is beautiful. However we all know how difficult it can be to manage. There are many hairstyles that black women use to make our hair more manageable, such as dreads, corn rolls, weaves and perms. More recently however women of color have been leaving behind the relaxer and weaves and embracing their beautiful natural curls. I have seen a lot of girls around school recently learning to love their magnificent curls, and you all look beautiful by the way. Despite this not everyone is seeing the beauty in natural hair.
Black women are worried that their natural curls could affect their job employment, and rightfully so as there have been a myriad of cases these women being denied promotions and even fired for their hair. Their natural growing out of their roots hair! In august 2012 news surfaced of a dean at a Hampton University school (a historically black college) placing a ban on dreadlocks and cornrows in 2001. Rhonda Lee a black news anchor was fired in 2012 after she defended her natural hair. In 2013 Melphine Evans, a former BP executive was reportedly fired for her braided hair and "ethnic culture". Offices that have denied employment to people who wear their hair naturally compare these hairstyles to those of mohawks and dyed hair claiming that they are extreme. I remember my aunt coming to my mom and asking her what she should do about her natural hair because her boss asked her to change it. I was so shocked when I heard this because I couldn't understand how natural hair could be considered unprofessional or a distraction. My aunt was angry as well but she did not want to loose her job so she decided to actually chemically change her hair with a perm. This discrimination does not only exist in the corporate workforce however. Black military women who make up about 1/3 of the women in the armed forces are concerned about new army regulations that surfaced last year. These regulations include a ban on multiple braiding, twists, and afros. These regulations primarily target black women and the only approved hairstyles are those that involve women being in a salon for hours including perms and blow outs. Some of us have already entered the work force and I think it is important for us to be aware of the discriminations that exist in the work force. We have to work twice as hard to even be considered for these positions and then it comes down to the miniscule detail of our hair. My advice to you and all women with natural hair is to wear it proud! Despite what any one thinks because honestly if they'll fire you for your hair, they really don't want you to work there and they'll find something else to fire you for. Find a workplace where you will be accepted and appreciated no matter what your hair looks like.
The following is a link from a dailyshow interview about black hair in the military: http://thedailyshow.cc.com/videos/p3pawq/operation-black-hair
Friday, May 8, 2015
Are we ready for a female President?
In my opinion I think a woman is completely capable of being president; as long as she has the qualities that are needed to lead a nation. I fell very strongly about this, however, there does seem to be some obstacles that even today prevent women from obtaining the position of president. An article I read said that, "American Presidents typically come from just a few high level offices, most of which have had relatively few female occupants."(Ross Cohen). This was an interesting point because when you think back into the colonization period, many of the presidents were former army generals. Women weren't allowed to fight in the army back then but, even in this day and age where woman actually can join the armed forces, there are very few female generals; even to this day. Another example that the article presents is that even despite the efforts of women like Sarah Palin and Geraldine Ferraro, there has yet to be a female vice president. It also says that even though many women have been elected as senators and governors, the percentage of men in these occupations greatly out weigh the percentage of women. Some may deem this as a great accomplishment for women in the political world and others may see it as an aspect the women need to improve on before they consider leading a nation.
Even as I am for the idea of a female president I feel that others might even take it for granted. They might not take a female president as seriously as they would a male. They might focus on the more superficial aspects of the female president than they cause they support and their efforts to build a nation. I can just see it now: Hilary Clinton reciting her 2016 inauguration speech and all that's being talked about in the tabloids is the color of the pantsuit she wore that day. There are some women today who would wholeheartedly support a woman going into office, yet, there are also those who are stuck and the past and see men as the better leaders because of the apparent "toughness", "strength", and "aggressiveness" that they have that women supposedly don't. The truth is that women can be as tough and aggressive as they need to be when the time calls for it and at the same time still hold on to their innate nurturing qualities.Maybe its time for us to break away from the stern and demanding leaders that we have had for centuries and look into a new type of president: one whose nurturing and can empathize with her nation, treating it as if the whole nation its self were her own child. A president who could carry her nation along side her as she helps it grow and prosper into something even better than it was before. And a president who is welling to recognized all people as equals regardless of their race, background, or ethnicity. We need a president who is able to reform the nation and act as a precedent for other women to do the same. What do you guys think?
Friday, May 1, 2015
Women Exploring Their Sexulaity - Unacceptable?
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Women Exploring their Sexuality
This past week we have been learning about women and birth control. Birth control is a well effective method that stops women from conceiving. Contraceptive pills have also given women more sexual freedom. This new found freedom has made yet another double standard for women. A woman who remains chaste may be seen as a respectable, good-matured woman, while a woman who takes the time to explore her sexuality is labeled a whore and many other degrading names. These adjectives have been used to characterize women for centuries. A woman’s virginity was a bargaining tool for her parents and was used to decide her fate. Even with all of the forms of birth control in society, the double standard still has not changed. Unlike women, Men may be praised for their promiscuous actions. This double standard is pushed by the media and seen in many TV shows. One show I watch called The Tudors, takes place in England during King Henry VIII reign. King Henry has a friend named Brandon who is a real ladies man, he is attractive and very charming. The amount of women he sleeps with is ridiculous. Even when he is married, he continues to have affairs. Brandon is simply praised for having “the finest women”, but these women’s reputation can be tarnished forever.
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I know personally as a young woman growing up I’m told to be aware of my surroundings, I should not be in a secluded area with a guy. I’m told to save myself for marriage, that I don’t want any of the bad effects of premarital sex. I am taught the do's and don’ts while my male cousins are presented with condoms and told to be responsible. This article Double Standards Between Men and Women correlates my feelings on the way sex is discussed. I feel as though this double standard has no chance of ending in the nearer future. I understand that sex is not something to be taken lightly. Sex between two people who love each other is a beautiful thing; Sex can be even better in marriage because the relationship is more secure. Exploring your sexuality does not mean you should constantly switch partners, but sexual education should be taught in the same manner for male and females. As teenagers in a sex centered world, both genders should be educated in the do's and don’ts of being sexually active. Everyone should be taught about the dangers of STD’s, STI’s and the risks of teen pregnancy. Everyone should understand the emotional toll sex can have on you if you do not take it seriously. I want to know what you think about women and men exploring their sexuality? Do you think a better education of sex would help men and women of all ages? Do you think it is possible for this double standard to cease?
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Housewives Vs. Single Working Women
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After watching the movie “Iron Jawed Angels”, I noticed that the tension between the single women and the housewives is apparent. The mothers thought that the single women were not fulfilling their roles as “proper” women and wasting their time and not doing their duty whereas the single women thought the housewives were a waste because they were dependent on their husbands and were home with the children. I have been noticing that housewives have this negative connotation to them. People believe that housewives stay at home all day, taking care of the kids, cooking and cleaning and often misunderstand that it is hard work to be a housewife. Although a housewife does not have a typical job, she does have a very important job of her own.
Single women are mostly independent and do not rely on a partner to take care of themselves, which has earned them so much more credit in today’s world. I came across this discussion on debate.org that asked “Are Working Women More Respected Than Housewives” 68% of people agree that working women are more respected because housewives are seen as lazy and useless because they do not contribute to making a living. An opposing argument is that housewives should be more respected because they are devoting their life to their husband and children and are not being “selfish” and depriving the child of the attention he/she needs from their mother.
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As I think back to the movie, Alice Paul and Lucy Burns sort of look down on the housewives because they were not making a real effort with helping to gain women’s rights but they did forget that the housewives were the ones with the political connections, in the case of Emily. The mothers could not actively participate in the picketing outside the White House because they could have faced arrest and taken away from their children. Although both set of women looked at each other differently, both of them were needed in the fight to gain women’s rights. What do you think of Housewives and Single Women?
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