Do any of you guys have a Victoria Secret Angel body ? Maybe some of you do, or think you do, or for you seniors are trying to achieve that body. All I have to say is STOP ! You are perfect the way you are, stop letting the media, your boyfriend depict the way your body should look just to be accepted in society . I don't know how many times I have heard people say that they wish they had a nice body every- body shape and size is unique in it's own way , whether it is being petite or a bigger petite. Every girl let's themselves down because they see what is on TV and say I want that, they look at Kim Kardashians behind and say " I need me a booty like that", or they watch the Victoria Secret Fashion show and say I want my body to look that, and just think that is how they have to be. For those that are letting their boyfriend tell them they want a girl with boobs or a behind , he isn't right for you or if he is saying he likes girls that look a certain way leave him. If for some reason you can't leave him tell him once he looks like a Calvin Klein model then you will look like a Victoria Secret Angel. I myself have let the media control the way I should be by looking at what the media thinks is pretty.
Let me tell you guys a story and I'm sure only some people in the class know this story. So I met this guy about six or seven years ago and his name is D.J. I have had the biggest crush on him he is a senior and he goes to St. Benedict's my entire family loves him, they think he is the perfect guy for me. However, many times I think to myself I might not be the best girl for him. For a while D.J was in his awkward stage but I still liked him and no girl paid attention to him, then puberty hit him hard as can be. He is tall a little muscular and he's Portuguese he has a smile that melts girls hearts, from what I heard he has a good heart, and he is really funny- which is great because I love to laugh. But recently I have been hearing the kinds of girls he likes and I have noticed a pattern in the girls he likes for example they are all Italian, they all have "blond" hair, and they all have a booty. So for a good time in my life I thought he will only date me if I was Italian, had "blond" hair , and a booty so since I couldn't help him out with the Italian part because I am Peruvian and Puerto Rican, and I refuse to dye my hair "blond", I thought I could help him out with the booty part. So over the past summer I was doing exercises to make my booty more firm, more round, and not so jiggly. It wasn't working and I thought to myself he will never date me. Every time my aunt would introduce us he would look up at me for a second, then he would look away, it made me so mad. But recently I have been noticing that I can't be like those girls and will not be like them and that D.J will like me for me. Then I also thought he isn't exactly everything I want in a guy maybe he should change I like guys with light eyes, who aren't Portuguese, and who aren't so cocky. So in my head I thought if you don't become the ideal image I have of a Calvin Klein model, I won't become his ideal image of a Victoria Secret Angel. But then I also thought and with the help of people who are more wiser than I am that it isn't just about looks, you also have to take into consideration the way the person's personality is. They could be the cutest guy in the world but the biggest jerk you meet, or like it is most of the time that the guy with the biggest heart isn't always your first choice, but the guy with the heart is meant for you.
There was a book I read once it is called "The Earth my Butt and Other Big Round Things" by Carolyn Mackler if you girls haven't read it I highly recommend it , I read this book at the time I wanted D.J to notice me. It is about a girl named Virginia who is oppressed by her skinny family, everyone in her family from her parents to her siblings are all skinny and they are all popular, and Virginia is the outsider of her family she is a little thick and she hates herself everyday for it. She gets bullied by these certain girls called the Brie girls who in the end you find out one of them has a eating disorder, and she tries so hard to be skinny and be accepted by her family. She even puts a picture of a model on her fridge so when she gets something to eat she remembers this is what she wants to look like, so she doesn't eat to much. In the end Virginia realizes she doesn't have to listen to her parents in the way they want her to be she can be her own type of Victoria Secret Angel ! On a blog I recently read Just Say Yes they had said " TV, movies, magazines, and the Internet all bombard teens with images and pressures about what their bodies should look like." I completely agree with this even my mom goes I wish I could be like that or look like that.
The Victoria Secret Angel fashion show wasn't too long ago and I am sure we all looked at those girls like they were goddesses with their skinny bodies, long legs, I know I did and no one should have to think they need to look like that, whether it is the media, your friends, or your boyfriend who expects you too look like that. If someone does say you need to look like this just say " Sure when you look like a Calvin Klein Model, I will look like a Victoria Secret Angel!"The good thing is these days more women who are thicker are being able to become models or are trying to become a model in season 16 of America's Next Top Model they let Kasia go on the show when there normal average model is smaller and taller. But my question to you guys is do you let the media or your friends oppress the way you look? Do you look at any model and wish you looked like them? Who influences you the most on your body and how you look?
Ever since I was 13 I've always had issues with my body. I would always wonder why no guys would want to talk to me or pay attention to me. During my freshman and sophomore year I was the most skinniest person ever, I was a twig with no boobs or booty. All the guys used to ignore me and never want to talk to me because of the way I look. The summer before junior year my body changed dramatically. I surprisingly gained weight and had some type of body. I used to always get picked on for being flat chested but junior year all of that changed. Instead of being called flat chested i got many comments saying that my boobs were too big for me now so i started wearing a lot of baggy clothes. I remember I had gained so much weight that one of the administrator in the school had asked me if I was pregnant; I got offended by that. After that I was so set on losing weight. People would look at me like I’m crazy like why does a little person like me want to lose weight. During this past summer with many struggles I lost 20 pounds and I’m finally close to the body that I want. I’m learning how to embrace my body and not let anyone judge me. If anyone knows me they know my stories with what came with my body change. lol When some of the guys I went to middle school with saw my drastic change they tried talking to me. I asked them why they want to talk to me now and they responded by saying I didn’t look like this back then. It’s sad how many guys only want girls just for their bodies!! Like honey if you do not have that v cut and a six pack do not expect me to have an hourglass shape with a Kim K booty. Nowadays its all about the booty. No girl should ever try changing for a guy, find a guy who loves you just the way you are.
ReplyDeleteI know for a lot of women they feel so insecure because of their bodies. Most of them either want to be skinny or maybe need a little more fat on them or they want bigger boobs or a bigger butt. Bottom line most of the time most women aren't happy with what they want. I know for me I'm not the smallest girl in the room but I'm not the biggest either, honestly I'm happy with the way I am. When I was younger I use to be so so chunky cause my grandma never stopped feeding me and I never stopped eating! When I moved out of my grandmas house my mom and me made a pack to lose some weight, and let me tell you I'm a lot skinnier than what I use to be. In the 8th grade I started liking this guy, and boy did I think I was in love. He was a year older than me and we met because I played softball with his sister. He was so dreamy... he was tall, had the six pack, played baseball, he was just so perfect to me. Our families started hanging out a lot and both of us kept flirting with each other (not in any type of way) but it was evident that we both liked each other. We had a long friendship/ relationship going on but then his glo'up stage started, and if he was dreamy before it was 1000x better now. His ego started to get to him and he thought he was this big hot shot (he kinda was but you know what I mean) along the way he met this girl. She was beautiful and his age, she had light brown hair and blue eyes, she was tall, smart, and athletic. She actually looked like she could be my cousin but thats besides the point. So he ended up letting go of whatever we had for her, and at the time I was heartbroken. He was the first guy I ever really got to know as well as I did. Now I look back at it and think of how crazy I was for letting him break my heart, but I'm glad it happened because they really are perfect for each other. They both turned out to be big jerks happily "in-love"
ReplyDeletewith each other. OH AND SHE HATES ME FOR NO REASON :) So my story is a lot like yours! Im glad you too know what you deserve. I think most of the time media does influence how I look at my body because I mean it would be nice to be "perfect" all around but I'm comfortable with who I am and how my body is. My mom really influences me the most though because she carries herself the same way I would like too. My mom isnt as skinny as a VS model but she makes herself look hot in whatever she wears and she really rocks it. She makes us eat healthy and we go for walks so that we don't get to over weight or anything. I think that if you are comfortable in your skin than no one can tell you differently.
This blog is good especially since we are approaching summer. Btw i liked when you said that if a boy wants a girl with a victoria secrety body, the boy should try to get a Calvin Klein body. But I noticed that people, mostly tend to say oh i need to go to the gym to work on my summer body. I don't hear people say oh I need to go to the gym to get healthy. The gym can help with your stamina & speed. I also see that we only care about our bodies when it comes to the summer time. And when we do get that "summer body" we want to show it off& sometimes when you have that body it brings a lot of attention especially from males & sometimes we don't like that. You also brought up a good point about personality. Having a wonderful personality makes you cute on the inside and out. We Need to start to embrace how we look & compliment our fellow sisters more often.
ReplyDeleteI definitely have struggled with body image issues and continue to go through them. I went through that horrid puberty phase and I felt so disgusting. None of the boys ever liked me and I always felt upset about that. I can honestly say that coming to Sva has helped me to overcome some of my body image issues and I do continue to work on my current issues. One thing about teenage boys is, they do not know what they want. If a boy has a set image of what his dream girl is, forget him. By setting a certain standards based on looks, he is limiting himself to all of the wonderful women out there and will never truly know what he's missing out on. Do not loose yourself in efforts to please a man because all you do is destroy yourself. Stay true to yourself and what you believe in. You are amazing and beautiful!! Xxx
ReplyDeleteSarah I would just like to say that you are beautiful and I love you! I'm proud of you for overcoming your insecurities and realizing that there is no such thing as the perfect guy or girl. We all have our flaws and one day we'll find someone who loves us regardless of the way we look. I love how personal your blog was and how you used examples that we could all relate to. I'm like the opposite of the family in the book you mentioned. In my family I am the smallest and growing up I use to hate when people in my family would come over because they would say "why are you so skinny, you need to eat" and it really made me feel bad about myself. For a while I would eat until I threw up in the hope of gaining weight and finally being accepted in my family, but when I did my parents would comment on how much weight I was gaining. I felt like an outsider in my own home and the constant back and forth of excessively gaining and loosing weight took a toll on my health. Until finally I became content with my body and realized that this is how God made me and that I should be happy that he took the time to create me in his image.
ReplyDeleteSarah I would just like to say that you are beautiful and I love you! I'm proud of you for overcoming your insecurities and realizing that there is no such thing as the perfect guy or girl. We all have our flaws and one day we'll find someone who loves us regardless of the way we look. I love how personal your blog was and how you used examples that we could all relate to. I'm like the opposite of the family in the book you mentioned. In my family I am the smallest and growing up I use to hate when people in my family would come over because they would say "why are you so skinny, you need to eat" and it really made me feel bad about myself. For a while I would eat until I threw up in the hope of gaining weight and finally being accepted in my family, but when I did my parents would comment on how much weight I was gaining. I felt like an outsider in my own home and the constant back and forth of excessively gaining and loosing weight took a toll on my health. Until finally I became content with my body and realized that this is how God made me and that I should be happy that he took the time to create me in his image.
ReplyDeleteGreat post Sarah! See the thing is with me is that I usually get compliments on my body other than from a few people. I guess it is because my butt is a nice shape and round, but that runs in my family. I do look on TV and online wishing I had bigger boobs so I can look better in a bathing suit like the Victoria Secret models. Then I realize they all had some type of plastic surgery to enhance their boobs and I did not feel as bad anymore. See knowing that everything they have is not natural makes me feel better because sooner or later natural will be the new style and girls will be proud to say that they did not do anything to alter their body. Right now all over the media many girls are promoting the surgery they have received on their boobs or butts and they are not hiding it anymore, but I believe this trend will fade, just how having a perm faded and it is all about having natural hair. Everyone should just be happy with what God has given them and don't let the media make them feel insecure because it too insecurity to make these women get these unnecessary plastic surgery to their bodies.
ReplyDeleteIt is really sad that we live in a world where we are constantly being judged for everything especially our body types, because we have no control over how we want our body to be like. Two weeks ago, I was talking to a guy from my elementary school because he hit-me-up on Facebook and when we were talking, I asked him what he remembered about me the most and he said “ your big butt”. I was obviously offended about the fact that all he remembered about me was my butt… because I am more than just my body type.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, someone that I have come to realize in life with regards to body types is that, we all have flaws because no body is perfect, and instead of focusing on what we don’t have, we should rather embrace and rock what we do have.
I would say that when I was younger I was always conscious of my weight. i used to be a bit chubby for my age and than most kids in my school. I remember one time my little cousin called me fat and i ran in the bathroom and cried. So i refrained from eating around him or as much when he was around for a while. As I grew up I lost weight and got taller and started to love my body and try to influence people that your body is perfect no matter how skinny or fat or tall or short you are. For those who look to plastic surgery as a way to make themselves look better i would say don't because most of the time it just makes you look bad. If your body is a certain way it is for a reason unless you are unhealthy in which that is when you should try to lose those pounds. But just because you go and get the fat cut out your stomach it doesn't mean your going to be anymore attractive. I would magazines and tv show are used to entertain and what not but try not take them so seriously.
ReplyDeleteEverything you just posted is 100% true. I often wished that i had a slimmer waist. Everytime i speak of this or say im on a diet people look at me like im crazy because in their eyes im the perfect size. People say they wished they had my body but I still believe i can slim down my stomach so i be more comfortable with it. I do believe many girls and guys are effected by the media and what they say you should look like. People buy waist trainers and butt lifters and fake boobs to look like Kim Kardashian and Nicki Minaj.
ReplyDeleteEverything you just posted is 100% true. I often wished that i had a slimmer waist. Everytime i speak of this or say im on a diet people look at me like im crazy because in their eyes im the perfect size. People say they wished they had my body but I still believe i can slim down my stomach so i be more comfortable with it. I do believe many girls and guys are effected by the media and what they say you should look like. People buy waist trainers and butt lifters and fake boobs to look like Kim Kardashian and Nicki Minaj.
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